Always The Real Thing: The Value of Being Yourself in Attracting Women
By: James Brito
You know that slogan, “Always the real thing”? It doesn’t just apply to soft drinks. It also applies to relationships. No matter how many dating seminars you attend, how many books you read, or how many seduction services you subscribe to, none of the lessons are gonna matter if they don’t fit with YOUR personality.
In his interview with David DeAngelo, relationship expert Carlos Xuma says, “I feel like an idiot if I’m just reciting somebody’s regurgitated lines. I have to make it personal to me.” I think a lot of guys can relate to that.
So you have to make your approach, your seduction style, personal to you. But you also have to make it personal to a woman. Xuma makes the excellent point that if you use standard, recycled lines on a woman, you make HER feel standard and recycled, as well! It’s as if she’s a carbon copy of every other woman who’s been branded with the cow-poke of pick-up lines.
Treat her specially, like someone unique, and she’ll treat YOU as someone special and unique, as well.
But how can you expect her to respect you, if you disrespect her by treating her like all the other woman out there? There’s the failure of overused pick-up lines: They’re not original. And they’re usually not part of who YOU are.
As Xuma points out, in deciding how to approach girls, sometimes the best “style” is actually no style. Don’t do what works for other guys; do what works for you. I hope that the methods I teach in “How to Be Irresistible to Women” will work for you. In fact, I’m confident they will. But if they don’t fit your personality, then don’t use them! Instead of prescribing to just one method-or worse, to ALL of them-try to use pieces of each of them, until you’re totally prepared for anything. It’s nice to have a Plan A, but having a back-up Plan B, C, D, and E is even better!
Xuma suggests being like Bruce Lee, who didn’t just one martial art style for himself, but a collection of various ones. In the end, when he became a star, Lee didn’t practice just one style; he practiced so many, that he didn’t really have any one style. He just did what fit him.
So it should be for you. You should be the Bruce Lee of relationships! And, just like the slogan: “Always the real thing.”
James Brito, bestselling author of “How to Be Irresistible to Women”, regularly explores topics of female attraction. Since 2000, he has helped thousands of men around the world build confidence and get the women they deserve. To get his free six-part audio mini-course, visit:
http://www.000relationships.com/
Because it’s YOUR turn!