An Excerpt from the book, Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your
By: Py Kim-Conant
Here is an excerpt from the Introduction to my book, Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man. I would love to hear from you with any feedback or comments. Some people have brought up some controversial issues:
1. Don’t you feel you’ve revealed a bit too much of your personal sex life?
2. Don’t you stereotype Asian women with your emphasis on femininity?
3. This book isn’t very politically correct, is it?
Your Journey to Becoming an American Geisha Begins:
My mind said, “I am hot and sexy. And wet.” But I worried about expressing this to men because I was not expected to speak or even to think this way since I am an Asian woman. I am supposed to be shy, demure, not sexually assertive. The stereotype of the Asian woman didn’t encourage me to talk about my sexual excitement and desires; I have been taught since birth to say what other people expect and want to hear.
Growing up as an Asian woman I found no encouragement to explore my femininity or sexuality. Not only were my parents conservative, but with seven older brothers and sisters living in a cramped home in Seoul, Korea, I had no privacy and thus no sex life beyond a few unfulfilling moments of sexual self-exploration stolen while in the shower or hiding under the sheet. Even though my family eventually emigrated to Los Angeles, I was expected to live at home until I married.
I have not always been a feminine, hot, sexy Asian woman. I had to learn to be feminine, hot, and sexy. The movie 9½ Weeks awakened my sexuality. It was February 1986. I was twenty-three years old and practically a virgin; I had never had an orgasm with intercourse. In a dark, sold-out theater in Hollywood, I got wet and hot watching the movie. I dreamed of having a sexual relationship with a man, even if only for nine or ten weeks. I wrote in my journal, “The most motivation to live is to have an orgasm for one full minute. All that I do is preparing and struggling to get the ultimate pleasure, an orgasm.” I used several scenes from the movie for inspiration during my infrequent and secretive (because I still lived with my family) masturbation sessions.
Py Kim Conant, the author of Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man, from Hunter House, October 28, 2006. Looking for dating, sexuality, and relationship tips and secrets? Visit her website at http://www.AmericanGeishaHouse.com.