Arouse Your G Spot and Your Partner
By: Nathan Patmor
Now, you may ask yourself, what’s the connection between arousal and the g spot?
Well, the g spot is best found and stimulated when you are completely turned
on. If you try to stimulate it before it can be hard to find, and stimulation can
be uncomfortable or even painful. The best time to explore the g spot is when your
partner is so hot she’s begging you to be inside her.
To help you get to that place quickly and easily, we’re focusing this article on
getting you both highly aroused - quickly and easily. Speaking of
arousal, did you know the most important part of the body for arousal is … the
mind? Yes, its not the clitoris, the penis, or any erogenous zone. Its the mind.
About 75% of arousal comes from the mind (especially for women).
So, guys, I’ve created a sample evening to use with your partner, and worked in
many small techniques to build arousal. I suggest you read this over, completely,
and then plan an evening with your partner this week and follow the steps:
1) when you wake up, tell your partner that you love her, and then share two or
three things you enjoy about being with her. When you are sharing this, focus on
speaking from your root … you may notice often your energy is in your head, or
your throat. Use your breathe, and your awareness to speak from your sex. Speak
with heart, and with emotion. be real!
2) tell your partner that you’ve planned a super sexy night for her, and that you
have a surprise for her as well. (DO NOT TELL HER WHAT IT IS!) This will let your
partner know that tonight is not a normal night. It will also make her think about it
all day. This is what you want.
3) don’t spend much time with your partner that day. be out, be busy. its
important to have physical seperation, to build a bit of distance.
4) however, make a point to call her and say that you love her and are looking
forward to going out later that night. by now, she’ll likely be telling her friends
how strange you’re acting! : )
When you are out that night, do whatever you would normally do: cook-in, go out
to a nice restaurant, have wine, cocktails, etc.
5) However, when you first greet her, make a point to hug/kiss her with love and
intensity. Also, create an excuse to whisper something (anything) in her ear, and let
your breath linger on her neck.
6) Then, throughout the evening, create excuses to massage her shoulders, touch
her arm or leg, be close to her, etc.
Now, you can do all these small techniques things at any time, on any day. (In fact, I
recommend you do them all the time!). I’m just framing them over an evening date
to make them easier to teach you.
Its likely by now that she’ll ask you about your surprise … don’t tell her what it is.
Keep the suspense and mystery. Feel free to be playful – but don’t tell her.
Now, its after dinner, you’re coming back home. Tell her that the first part of the
surprise is that you’ve planned a special evening once you get back. Say, I’m going
to give you a cocktail (or a glass of wine, etc.) when we get home and go upstairs
and prepare.
This makes her even more curious, and lets her know you’re taking care of
everything. Women generally find this super sexy.
Go to your bedroom, and set things up. You’re going to be doing some massage
and sexual exercises with your partner. Prepare for that, and then invite your
partner into the space.
Now, in this part of the evening, you’re going to experiment with some simple
exercises that build attraction, arousal and intimacy. Again, you can use these
techniques any time, together or separate. I’ve just put them into an evening
activity as a way to teach them (it also makes for a great night of fun!)
1) tell your partner that you’ve designed an evening to help create intimacy and
arousal. that neither of you will be orgasming tonight – that’s its about loving each
other, and getting hot and sexy – without the pressure of orgasm. (you heard me –
don’t have an orgasm … take away the predicable path … you’ll get much more hot
for each other, and its good practice. trust me!
2) take a few minutes to share a bit about what you appreciate and admire about
each other. we often don’t do this with our partners. share 2 or 3 things each.
3) now, take a few minutes, to look into your partners left eye. sit quietly, be
present with each other, feel your partner. if you mind wanders bring it back. this
is a small exercise to build presence and intimacy. it will likely feel quite weird in
the beginning. do it anyway!
4) if it seems appropriate share a bit about how that ways, and try it again
5) now, take 5 minutes to kiss each other. pretend you’ve just met. explore each
other. kiss as if that’s all you are going to do tonight, not as an excuse to get to
have sex. explore her lips, tongue, neck, ears, chin, throat, etc.
6) you will likely get bored and want to move on. don’t! i’ve done workshops
where you have to kiss 1,000 times differently. be creative. push through the
normal patterns. we are retraining how you approach sex. slowing you down. re-
awakening your senses. building creative muscle.
7) after this, lay your partner down, and put a blindfold on her. (if you don’t have
one, you can use a scarf, or something else)
take 10 or 15 minutes to touch your partners body. NOT HER CLITORUS OR
VAGINA. enjoy yourself. if you are having fun, you will be much more present,
and amazingly enough, it will feel much better to her. experiment with different
kinds of touch: hard, fast, slow, soft, circular, fingernails, pads of fingers, feather,
silk, tongue, lips, cold breathe, hot breathe, something warm, something cold, etc.
track your partner’s response. what you are doing should be turning her on. if its
not, try something different, and check in with her
9) never feel bad about requesting, giving or receiving feedback. you can’t know
everything, so don’t expect it of yourself.
10) now, at this point in the evening, you can start to innovate. you can either have
you partner lay you down and do the same thing to you. you can start to involve her
yoni and clitoris. you can branch into massage, oral sex, sex, etc. be creative.
Remember, do not have an orgasm tonight. Use the evening to enjoy each other.
Revel in each other’s taste, smell’s, and passion. Love and be loved. Find the
freedom that comes from not trying to get somewhere.
Learn to find and explore the g spot. Enjoy amazing orgasms, and better sex. Authored
by a real couple, with practical tips, techniques, and exercises.
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