Atlanta Singles Dating Red Flags - Always Late
By: Jeff Herring
Q: I’ve been dating a guy for about 6 months and things are good except for one thing - he is almost always late for our dates. I try not to make a big deal out of it, but it is really annoying. Should I just get used to this or what?
A: Everyone gets to be late every now and then. That’s life.
When someone shows up habitually late, that’s not life. That’s character. It’s also arrogance.
It’s arrogant because what this person is telling you is that they believe their time and convenience is more important than your time, convenience, and feelings.
I believe the solution is to become unavailable for waiting, past a very few minutes. Becoming no longer available for something is another way of setting a boundary. A boundary is simply a way of saying “don’t go there.”
I’ll even give you the words - “I’ve noticed that you are often late for our times together. What can we do to solve this, because from now on I am no longer willing to wait around.”
If the person is willing to work on this with you, then you just might have something worth hanging around for.
If this person conitnues to make excuses and is not willing to work on this with you, then you might not have something worth hanging around for.
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