Atlanta Singles Dating: Rule Number 3 for Conscious Dating - Be the Chooser
By: Jeff Herring
Dating is so full of challenges for most of the singles I coach.
I hear this story so often when I ask what first attracted you to this person and/or how did you decide to get involved or marry this person. The answer is often, well, this person liked me first, so I decided to like them.
Weak chooser muscles
I’ve found that many singles have weak chooser muscles. This causes singles, and any one else for that matter, to take what they believe they can get, and not go for what they really want. Weak chooser muscles cause you to settle for whatever you can get.
How to be the “chooser”
If you do not get anything else out of this article, get this: YOU can be the chooser. You are an adult with a fully functioning frontal lobe in your brain! You get to choose.
For many people, this is a radical notion. For some it is a threatening notion, because to be the chooser you have to give up the right to blame others for your problems and have to take responsibility for yourself.
In order to be the choose in relationships, you have to take initiative and responsibility for your outcomes. Don’t just react to what, or who, chooses you. Choose to create what you want in your life and in your relationships.
That is being the chooser.
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