Atlanta Singles Dating Trap #14 - The Sex Trap and How to Avoid It
By: Jeff Herring
Singles tell me that dating is one of the biggest challenges they face in their lives. And that is before you mix in the confusing feelings that go with sex.
The Sex Trap
It has been said that love is blind. Well, if love is blind, then sex is the blindfold.
Singles fall into the Sex Trap in one, or both, of two ways:
1. Singles believe that sex is a necessary test of compatibility. Therefore, if the sex is good then the relationship will be good as well.
2. More commonly, all consciousness goes out the window, and one or both formerly level-headed singles consider themselves a committed couple as soon as they have sex. This is the blindfold part.
The screaming danger is to confuse the immensely powerful and pleasurable feelings that go along with sex with love.
The next step down the slippery slope of the sex trap is this kind of thinking - “Well, there are some problems and warning signs here, but the sex is so good!”
Your Solution: Here a difficult challenge - to keep your head about you when you are feeling all these great feelings. You can do this by being very clear on your requirements, needs, and wants in a relationship. No matter how good the sex is, if your requirements are not met, then it is a deal breaker.
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