Atlanta Singles Dating Traps - Dating Trap #5 - The Date-to-Mate Trap
By: Jeff Herring
Ever try to put a round peg in a square hole?
This is one of the dangers of the date-to-mate trap. If you go out into the
dating world with the goal that you must find a long term relationship or
even marriage, you set yourself up for trying to make something fit that
does not, cannot, and will not fit.
I had a coaching client once that entered into a marriage relationship
knowing he wanted children and knowing that she was ambivalent at best
about having children.
The outcome is predictable, is it not? The couple eventually divorced over
this issue.
Requirements are must haves
Having children was a requirement for this person. A requirement is
something you must have, and is non-negotiable. In this example, you
cannot have half a child.
Solution: Be very careful of becoming an instant couple, especially
just to be with someone. Know what your requirements are in a long term
relationship, and settle for nothing less. Taking this position scares
many of the singles I coach because they believe it greatly reduces the
number of available partners.
While this is true, remember, it only takes one.
Date a bunch of different people without the pressure of the
date-to-mate trap. This solution greatly increases your chances of
finding the one.
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