Atlanta Singles Dating Traps - Dating Trap Number 9 - The Co-Dependent Trap
By: Jeff Herring
Dating can be such a challenge and it’s hard to get it right sometimes. We want to please so much in a new relationship that we are at risk of falling into The Co-Dependency Trap.
Singles can be too eager to please. Are you too much of a pleaser in a new relationship? Here are some tips and tools to avoid The Co-Dependency Trap and what to do instead.
The Co-Dependency Trap
Co-Dependency is such an over used term from the world of pop psychology. For our purposes, co-dependency refers to the tendency to please others at the expense of your self.
In the move “Runaway Bride” Julia Roberts plays a woman who likes her eggs however the man she is dating likes his eggs. This is a good example of co-dependency.
When we become too eager to please, we begin to lose ourselves. Many times our need to be needed will attract someone who is too needy. At first it can feel so good to be needed. What eventually happens is you find your self in a relationship with someone who cannot meet any of your needs.
Solution: Avoid liking someone just because they like you. Be clear on your boundaries and make them clear to the person you are with. Choose people who are closely aligned with your requirements and needs.
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