Common Marriage Problems - Expecting Failure
By: Terry Ross
One of the most common marriage problems in recent times is entering into marriage with the expectation that it is likely to fail.
Failure is a state of mind, marriages will fail if you expect them to fail because you are constantly looking out for all kinds of common marriage problems and that initial indication that the marriage is about to go wrong.
Very few people can boast that they have a perfect marriage and most that do have purely overlooked a myriad of common marriage problems because they have learned the art of resolving marriage problems before they become an issue. Most couples who believe they have a perfect marriage have just learned how to meet each others needs, resolve common marriage problems quickly and effectively and are prepared to make an effort when it comes to marriage.
If you enter into marriage believing that the union is until death do you part you have a far greater chance of success. Those couples with a positive attitude towards marriage are far more likely to be able to resolve common marriage problems without such problems infringing on their quality of life and their marriage.
Take for example incompatibility. This is a common favourite in the divorce courts which is quite ironic given the saying ‘opposites attract’. It makes you think about what kind of common marriage problems would lead to incompatibility. I’ve heard some couples say it’s because one of them is too messy or leaves their dirty washing on the floor.
A couple a know recently split up basically over the fact that they never saw each other which is another common marriage problem that regularly leads to the destruction of marriage. Just a little effort could have saved this marriage, she liked to keep fit so went to a couple of sessions a week and nights out with the girls and he liked pool and a night out with the lads. Stupidly, and a common problem in marriage, they chose to let this impact on six out of seven nights a week so it was no wonder that they grew apart.
If you enter into marriage you need to do so with the thought that most common marriage problems can and should be resolved before they start to destroy the foundations of the marriage. You have to be prepared to work at marriage and spend time keeping your marriage alive.
If you expect to fail you will fall foul of common marriage problems and you will fail but if you expect to succeed than the chances are that you will learn the joys of the perfect marriage that the minority rave about.
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