Having photographed many weddings over the past 17 years I’ve come to the conclusion that the wedding day seems to be all about the bride. Not exactly shocking news you might think, but considering the groom is 50% of the union he’s certainly an underrepresented minority.

As a wedding photographer my day starts at the bride’s home where all the bridesmaids and flower girls have assembled. There’s a madhouse of activity with telephones ringing, flowers and bouquets being delivered and the heavy scent of hairspray lingering in the air. There’s absolutely no denying it. I’m at WEDDING HEADQUARTERS! I’m working at a rapid pace, photographing all the details of the wedding preparation. There are classic photographs that must be taken. Some of which include the bride with her bridesmaids, along with photos with her mom and dad and then…..the sleek limousine pulls into the driveway. Finally I’ll photograph the bride leaving her parents home for the last time as their unmarried daughter, getting into the limousine and heading off for the ceremony.

I’m already breaking out in a sweat and I haven’t even seen the groom yet. He’s that poor, forgotten figure who mysteriously appears at the front of the church, awaiting his beautiful bride. Anyone will acknowledge that there’s not going to be a wedding without him, but somehow he gets lost in the pre-wedding hysteria. Somehow that trip to the tuxedo rental shop doesn’t hold the same mystique for him that the bride experiences while hunting down the perfect dress. Obviously there are going to be exceptions to these observations, but most of the excitement, fun, and yes, the WORK of wedding planning is handled by the bride. Maybe it’s just traditional that the bride and her family plan for the wedding, and this may be particularly true when the two families live far from each other.

That being said, it’s my job as a wedding photographer to treat everyone equally during the wedding day. I’m always sure to photograph the groom and his family along with any special family request from either side. Some of the most emotional moments from any wedding celebration occur during the mother/son dance. My camera has captured many a teary eye during these dances. (tears of joy of course!) Not long ago I was working on a wedding album with one of my bridal customers. She’s a very nice young lady who was extremely low-key about the whole process. She had no unusual demands and never even approached a “bridezilla” moment. There was ONE thing she asked me to do when assembling her album. She told me that she didn’t care if the photos were placed in perfect chronology coinciding with the wedding day. She INSISTED that the first page of the album be a photograph of she AND her husband. “The wedding was about both of us”, she said. We then proceeded to select the perfect photograph to start the album.

About the author:
Andy Heller is the owner/operator of Heller Photography, www.hellerphoto.com specializing in Boston Wedding Photography and social events throughout Massachusetts since 1987. He can be reached at 508-668-4277 or by email: andy@hellerphoto.com

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Marriage problems can be unnerving for many couples, regardless of their magnitude. It is advisable that couples discuss marriage problems as soon as they arise. This helps people solve problems at an earlier stage. However, this should be done tactfully or else the situation could get out of hand. Marriage is an important event in every individual’s life. Problems related to it may occur soon after marriage or much later. If these problems are not dealt with in time, they may lead to separation. When marriage problems occur, couples are left with similar feelings of grief, frustration and disappointment.

It is important for couples to recognize and accept a problem early on. In most cases, couples may deny the existence of marriage problems. This postpones the vital step of dealing with a problem at its inception. Subsequently, petty bickering and arguments culminate in bigger problems, making it very difficult to deal with multiple issues all at once. Marriage problems are common and should be resolved one at a time to ensure long-term harmony.

It is important to note that all marriage problems can’t be solved. Couples need to have love, trust, mutual understanding, tolerance and respect for each other and truly want the problem to be solved. Some people allow their marriage problems to grow, leading to total incompatibility and eventually divorce between the couple.

When dealing with marriage problems, the best option for couples is to talk to each other. However, if this does not help, they may choose to discuss it with friends and family members who are helpful and concerned. Incorrect advice may cause further problems and make the situation more serious. A common approach to dealing with marital problems is to approach a marriage counselor. To ensure success, it is important to find counselors referred by someone who has used their services in the past.

Marriage provides detailed information on Marriage, Marriage Counseling, Marriage Problems, Marriage Licenses and more. Marriage is affiliated with Family Marriage Counseling.

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May the roof above us never fall in
And may we good companions beneath it never fall out.
— Irish Blessing

From round bread loaves and salt to a classic kitchen gift, the tradition of housewarming gift giving has a long and venerable history. That history of a housewarming gift continues today as an effective means of bringing new neighbors together.

The Tradition

Boris removed his cap and wrung it nervously. A member of Russia’s ruling party was arriving in full regalia. The entourage moved through the village as merchants offered respect. Boris nervously ran to his cottage and asked his wife, Yelena, for the gift they had prepared for this moment.

As the dignitary approached the outskirts of the village, Boris walked forward holding a round loaf of bread with a mound of salt in the center.

“What’s this?” asked the dignitary.

“Bread - for good health. Salt - for long life,” Boris said nervously.

“For me?” queried the dignitary.

“With glad welcome,” replied Boris as Yelena anxiously brushed back a strand of hair wondering if the gift would be well received.

All was quiet while the dignitary lifted the bread and inhaled the fresh baked scent. “Such a wonderful welcome,” he said with a large grin. The village folk broke out into cheers as a new tradition was born.

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While there is no definitive way of knowing exactly how housewarming gifts truly originated, some historians believe a scenario like the one above may have merit. Some will look back further to the birth of the Christ child and the gifts of the Magi.

However it originated, the idea of giving a housewarming gift in honor of new neighbors or friends has long been celebrated. It has proven useful in either breaking the ice with those we have not known or celebrating a new chapter in the lives of those we have long cared for.

Meaningful friendships have begun by observing this housewarming tradition.

Housewarming Etiquette

Housewarming gifts should be practical. A kitchen gift or cooking gift is always appreciated as neighbors or friends begin life in a new home. Housewarming gifts do not need to be overly expensive to be gratefully received. A very expensive housewarming gift given publicly can actually cause uncomfortable moments for the recipient as well as any other guests who may be in the home.

So Many Choices

While items for the outdoors may prove useful in some cases, a kitchen gift or cooking gift proves especially welcome in most scenarios. Even single men often find the kitchen of unique interest when seeking to entertain guests, so a housewarming gift for the kitchen may be appropriate more often than you might think.

A Good Neighbor

In a society that is increasingly mobile, a housewarming gift may be the perfect opportunity to lend support for someone who may be distanced from family. Your simple act of kindness in this housewarming tradition may well result in long term friendship and mutual support. In a society where we often don’t know our neighbor’s names, a housewarming gift provides a welcome means of connecting neighbors.

James Zeller writes for gift related websites and blogs. Here is a selection of unique gifts that he found, and a creative collection of culinary gourmet gifts.

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There is nothing—absolutely nothing—insofar as political power when it is under girded by morality, especially when that morality embraces the strength of the Christian religion. This is what Adolph Hitler seized upon, amplified, and nourished: One Reich, one Reich’s Church. With religion’s unwavering legitimacy enshrouding Nazism’s agenda—nothing could stop him. Today, an eerie semblance overshadows the West (this “revision”—August, 2005—is an update of this semblance)—it harkens back to the dark side of Christendom’s triumphalism wherein the State and Church team up to defeat evil doers and simultaneously spread Globalism and Gospel through military strength and the Crusaders’ zeal. What awful foolishness we witness when history repeats her worst episodes—nothing compares to the insanity of those who are doomed to duplicate earth’s darkest days!

NEVER IN AMERICA?

This article was written by one of German ancestry whose forebears on his mother’s side can be traced to Martin Luther himself; thence, the incessant interest in the rise of Adolf Hitler and, in particular (through years of research) the under girding support he derived in his ascendancy from the Christian religion in the heart of Europe. How could this possibly happen? Alas! Could we in America be as deceitfully predisposed to such a malevolent curse—driven by the same demons? Do we today witness camouflaged strategies designed to accomplish a greater horror of unimaginable consequence and upon Christendom of like vulnerability?

The remotest thought of such an evil plot akin to what seduced the German people could somehow be foisted upon our beloved America boggles the senses . . . yet, each day, each month, the same cultural polarization eerily divides; the similitude of its military-industrial complex mirrors that of Rome’s expansions; its cries for greater and more restrictive security for its citizenry clamors; its tenuous economic factors now threatening the globalism it created as a result of the insatiable consumption of all things luxurious persist—all this while within the walls of our crystal city, the party is oblivious to the multitude of the wretched outside who admire and distain its opulence. Are there comparisons? Be not quick in your rejection that alleged “systems” now in place—with histories of wide disparity—insure Americans absolute relief from the extremities of Nazi Germany . . . look again, look carefully, very carefully . . . history’s mercurial habit at repetition seeks to warn us all . . . “broad is the way that leadeth to destruction and many there be that go in thereat.”

THE INTOXICATING APPEAL

To understand the appeal, the absolute, mesmerizing, and intoxicating drive behind Hitler’s success, one must go beyond the inequities of the Versailles Treaty and delve into the mysterious association that Herr Hitler placed upon the Christian religion. Don’t think that Adolf was way off into some cultic, overtly demonic world of fantasy and influence. True, the occult most assuredly was deeply engaged in his thinking and outlook—but the use of legitimate Christian imagery was his forte. He both understood the need to mobilize the masses and the religion that alone could sway their fidelity to his cause.

Furthermore, throughout his declarations and apparent pontifications, is a unique ability to uplift and galvanize the German people—to so highly esteem them, and to generate within them the self-esteem that would produce a people whose image reflected the one who had so unalterably changed and transformed them into the awesome enunciation of der Fuhrer himself. They became transfixed and transported into another state of mind and being—from despair and rejection, to an exhilarating euphoria and total acceptance. They could BE ALL THAT THEY COULD BE and then some. Here is no buffoon strutting upon the stage of German dejection cavalierly riveting the German mind and will upon himself—no, no, no!

Here is the uniqueness of Adolf Hitler—one who could so verbalize with utter clarity what the German soul could be in its fullness and creative genius. Neither did his spoken word proclaim his own commitment and genius—it climaxed within the Germany he envisioned in such a rapturous expression and discovery of who they were, and what they could become, with God Almighty vindicating every breath they would take! Hitler injected into nearly every German heart a DIVINE SPARK, which regrettably morphed into an inferno of destruction and death unforeseen in human history—but its initial dissension upon its benefactors was replete with a baptism of power and light utterly transcendent that it captured an entire nation in the heart of Christian Europe. Its pristine message created the IMAGE of DAS VOLK, a people who were destined by the very triumph of their corporate will to be the consummation and commencement of the Kingdom of God—DAS THOUSANDE JAHRE REICH! (The promised millennial reign—one thousand year kingdom)!

But, firstly, the Weimar Republic’s failure was predictable. Its liberalism was far too watered down, far too immersed in its diversity and acceptance to galvanize the enthusiasm and concerted consecration of common folk, who longed for a winner, a leader, a “national champion.” Democracy, gone awry, alone can produce dictatorship—de facto, or elected! Ultimately, the Left (Weimar or Hollywood)—again by its very nature—simply cannot SUSTAIN the caliber of commitment and vision that can be produced by absolutism and rigid conservatism to which we allude here.

AMERICA’S PATRIOTIC CHURCH

Today a growing number of truly evangelical faithful observe the Christian Right in America, assisted by its current allies among the so-called neocons (i.e., neoconservatives—pragmatic politicos), forging a formidable alliance of convenience that wholly supports the rise of the American New World Order System. Its striking resemblance to Hitler’s appeals is frightful! Liberalism may rant and rave about societal freedoms and renounce governmental restrictions—but their voices and challenges are hollow sounding and even adjudged fallacious, when the triumph of his armies have so prevailed upon the Plains of Shinar! Libertarians and Constitutionalists—you do well to listen to this diatribe.

Likewise, the bickering factions within the Democratic Party (hard left-Moveon.orgs. vs. the Clintonians), whose extremities mirror the fratricide of their Weimar counterparts, sadly lack a cohesive strategy aside from a total pullout from the Middle East or its antithesis: All-out War against the infidels! Indeed, you especially do well to listen to this diatribe.

Meanwhile, the flagrant embrace of the war machine by evangelicals continues unabated—witness the bizarre web site @ http://www.forceministries.com and the on-going ascendancy of the American clergy to brandish their description as “Patriotic Pastors” juxtaposed to, I guess, those who are not—to wit:

“Thus, the Ohio Restoration Project (ORP) . . . plan(s) to identify and train 2,000 so-called ‘Patriot Pastors’ to get out the evangelical vote for the Ohio primary in May 2006.

“The Rev. Russell Johnson, ORP head and senior pastor of Fairfield Christian Church, an evangelical congregation in suburban Columbus, casts the 2006 election as an apocalyptic clash between a virtuous Christianity and the evildoers who oppose Christianity’s values.

“This is a battle between the forces of righteousness and the hordes of hell,” says Johnson on his church’s website. He exhorts evangelical clergy to get off the sidelines and lead America away from secularism and godlessness through the ballot box.” (August 23, 2005, Ohio Jewish News.com).

“God and country” rallies are planned throughout the burgeoning rise of the Patriotic Church over the next several years:

“Encourage their church families to participate in Pastor Policy Briefings and regional ‘God and Country Rallies’ where the issues of the day are underscored and highlighted and the Judeo-Christian ethic is affirmed. Nationally known speakers Franklin Graham, Zell Miller, Secretary of State Ken Blackwell (of Ohio), Bob McEwen, Pastor Lawrence White, Pastor Rod Parsley (Center for Moral Clarity), Ambassador Alan Keyes, Jerry Falwell, James Dobson, Chuck Colson, Pat Robertson and Tony Perkins will be asked to participate.” (Abovetopsecret.com ­ Feb. 6, 2005).

This, coupled with Pat Robertson’s “assassination remarks” of Venezuelan President Hugo Chavez (August, 2005), in keeping with his chilling remarks regarding the nuking of our own State Department for its alleged “Anti-Americanism” made in October, 2003, highlights the identification of the Republican Party with the rise of the Patriotic Church and its “Patriotic Pastor” brigades—now galvanizing throughout these United States.

The “moral polarization” of America has created a huge gapping sociopolitical chasm akin to what took place in Germany’s Weimar. Black, Hispanic, and other newly-arrived minorities, in the main, are familial stalwarts who, though the Democrat economic agenda meshes well on their behalf, are far more predisposed to the social agenda of the Patriotic Pastors—the “sodomites” who appear ubiquitous amongst the Democrats are shunned by the rank and file Republicans and most assuredly by the Patriotic Church. The vast majority of Germans were repulsed by the excesses of the Cabaret Society—who would lead them out of their debauchery, decadence, and depression?

The masses of Americana are traumatized by the “isms” identified with the Left in America (evolutionism, socialism, communism, anarchism, feminism, even ecumenism—especially, the UN’s Millennium World Peace Summit in New York, August 28-31, 2005 (now threatened by John Bolton’s suggestions)—along with abortion, homosexuality/same sex marriage), even in the worst of economic situations these masses will not embrace “it’s the economy stupid” but unwaveringly hold to their traditional values; furthermore, are not more Americans owning their own homes, working, living the dream as never before? The heartlanders and newly-arrived view these “isms” as anti-Christ, anti-God, and anti-American—much to the chagrin of the Democratic mainstream. Yet, the Left in America lumps “all” of faith as “suspect” at best, and at the core of America’s demise at worst. Similarities, yes, similarities . . .

ADOLF HITLER—THE GERMAN SOLUTION IS A CHRISTIAN ONE

The tone and substance coming from the mouth of Herr Hitler, although the context is, of course, unique to European Christianity, is eerily compatible to what we are increasingly hearing today from certain political leaders within the American New World Order System. What you are about to read will shock many of you—will utterly cause you to have a spiritual seizure; a revulsion akin to a full-blown, stomach-bending, vomit—but you must come to terms with why this is happening and how religion—the Christian religion—is the most powerful tool that can be utilized in order to capture the “believing” masses and to promote, through “moral covering” and political dedication, an agenda that resounds within the heart of the common man in the context of Western Civilization.

Hitler, like today’s champions of Americana, knew that the “believing masses” had been beaten down; had suffered their World War (Viet Nam), had their beloved Germany (America) battered about with moral decline and “radical secularism” that caused the “moral fiber” of the nation to collapse—something had (has) to be done—someone with guts and glory had (has) to arise to capture the imagination of the nation to arise from its depravity and crimes, from its vulnerability (be it from “them socialists” or “terrorists”), from its self-inflicted and debilitating social ills . . . someone is needed to alter our self-perceptions!

The problem was created by the Devil himself—The Cabaret Society of the Weimar Republic (They never represented true Germany!). “We’d been maligned by every creeping thing imaginable upon our streets: Socialists, Communists, radical Unionists, Jews, Secularists, Liberal Theologians, Homosexuals, Raunchy Entertainment, ad nausea—and this upon our wretched economic woes and that ‘Paper from Hell’ (i.e., the Versailles Treaty).”

Now—the Devil would provide the solution to the aforementioned problem. He would provide the solution through a man, a party, that would reach down to the common man and pull upon his heart strings—upon that which is made to respond to the highest ideals of man: His religious conscience would be the springboard to launch a fully consecrated and absolutely committed people, sold out to the one who could uplift and empower them. Thence, this resolution to Germany’s defeat must be ensconced within the language of power and persuasion—it must carry the fervor of the EVANGELIST, the power of the PROPHET, the message of the APOSTLE! Yes, convoluted—but done with such passionate skill, that the unwitting and desperate would believe the LIE. Indeed, a true LIE is so close to reality that its frightening resemblance obscures all semblances to the truth!

Ultimately, a lie told long enough, and amplified to the uttermost, resounds with familiarity—YE SHALL BE AS GODS, KNOWING GOOD AND EVIL! This original deceit confounded our original forebears. This is no ordinary lie—it is THE LIE. Godhood, the ultimate UBERMENSCH, is the final destiny of the German race—of Hitler’s “Religion.” But first, the people must be prepared, until they realize their supreme destination and status as DAS VOLK!

HITLER—I CAN’T BELIEVE HE SAID IT! (Hitler/Nazi Comments in quotes/bold)

“We demand liberty for all religious denominations in the State, so far as they are not a danger to it and do not militate against the morality and moral sense of the German race. The Party, as such, stands for positive Christianity, but does not bind itself in the matter of creed to any particular confession.” (Item 24 of the German Worker’s Party “Program” cir. 1920s)

At the earliest formation of the Nazi Party, Hitler expressed his Christian support to the German people and soldiers. In the 1920s, Hitler’s German Workers’ Party (pre Nazi terminology) adopted a twenty-five-point program with the clear intent to persuade the German people that “positive Christianity” was in full conformity to the “moral” convictions of the Party—i.e., the Party fully embraced the morality of Christianity and that Christianity was viewed as “singular” in the minds of that Party—Catholic and Protestants were considered as the foundation of German Christianity in its fullness and jurisdiction (the Party embraced both as one).

“MY LORD AND SAVIOR . . . IN THE BOUNDLESS LOVE AS A CHRISTIAN . . . HE HAD TO SHED HIS BLOOD UPON THE CROSS. My feelings as a Christian point me to my Lord and Savior as a fighter. It points me to the man who once in loneliness, surrounded only by a few followers, recognized these Jews for what they were and summoned men to fight against them. This is God’s truth! He was greatest not as a sufferer but as a fighter. In boundless love as a Christian and as a man I read through the passage which tells us how the Lord at last rose in His might and seized the scourge to drive out of the Temple the brood of vipers and adders. How terrific was His fight for the world against the Jewish poison. Today, after two thousand years, with deepest emotion I recognize more profoundly than ever before in the fact that it was for this that He had to shed His blood upon the Cross. As a Christian I have no duty to allow myself to be cheated, but I have the duty to be a fighter for truth and justice….

“When I go out in the morning and see these men standing in their queues and look into their pinched faces, then I believe I would be no Christian, but a very devil, if I felt no pity for them, if I did not, as did our Lord two thousand years ago, turn against those by whom today this poor people is plundered and exploited.”

[Note, “Brood of vipers” appears in Matt. 3:7 & 12:34. John 2:15 depicts Jesus driving out the moneychangers (adders) from the temple.] Adolf Hitler, in his speech on 12 April 1922.

“We were convinced that the people needs and requires this faith. We have therefore undertaken the fight against the atheistic movement, and that not merely with a few theoretical declarations: we have stamped it out.” ­Adolf Hitler, in a speech in Berlin on 24 October 1933.

Indeed, Hitler’s speeches and proclamations, even more clearly, reveal his faith and feelings toward a Christianized Germany. Nazism presents an embarrassment to Christianity and demonstrates the danger of blending “faith with politics.” Do you find it “spiritually disconcerting” to discover the depth of Hitler’s hermeneutic? How about his exegesis of Matthew 3:7, 12:34 and John 2:15? Hitler’s depiction of Jesus as the FIGHTER, not as the sufferer, is a distortion of the Scriptural intent of this reading; however, without knowing the full contextual nature of the Word, one could (as Hitler did) surmise a MILITANT JESUS is in view, and not a suffering Jesus.

It has been said, “The Bible can be read to say anything!” Examples abound: “Judas hung himself . . . go thou and do likewise!” This classic piece of cut and paste, though stupid, is precisely what many so-called expositors do with the Word of God—Hitler was no exception. But, the shedding of the blood of Jesus as the ultimate payment for “truth and justice and the German way” is frightening and turns true Christianity on its head! Note that Hitler claims to be a Christian and, as such, he has a duty to his own people—he too, like Jesus, must be a fighter for truth and justice—he must rid the Temple of the moneychangers, of the abominable Jews who harass his people, like Jesus did. The German people, according to Hitler, were being “plundered and exploited” and he would be NO CHRISTIAN if he didn’t do something about it. Hitler’s identification as a Christian was one of activism—not in name only! In this artful persuasion he under girded the German people in their predisposition to anti-Semitism, the full spiritual justification for their participation in the “Final Solution.”

In sum: Hitler showed his disdain for atheism, and pagan cults, and revealed the strength of his Christian feelings—make no doubt about that. Likewise, his was no meaningless and superficial theology—it was clearly demarcated and set forth in all its hideous implications with righteous gusto.

CHURCH UNITY—HITLER WAS A FIRM BELIEVER IN IT

“It will at any rate be my supreme task to see to it that in the newly awakened NSDAP, the adherents of both Confessions can live peacefully together side by side in order that they may take their stand in the common fight against the power, which is the mortal foe of any true Christianity.”—Adolf Hitler, in an article headed “A New Beginning,” 26 Feb. 1925

“This is for us a ground for satisfaction, since we desire that the fight in the religious camps should come to an end… all political action in the parties will be forbidden to priests for all time, happy because we know what is wanted by millions who long to see in the priest only the comforter of their souls and not the representative of their political convictions.”—Adolf Hitler, in a speech to the men of the SA at Dortmund, 9 July 1933, on the day after the signing of the Concordat (Agreement with the Roman Catholic Church, the Papacy).

The unity of the Church is a recurrent message delivered by Hitler. His object, of course, was “against the power”—i.e., the international Jewish conspiracy against the Church, and, of course, the German people and the world in general. The technique of solidifying the churches into the “Hammer of God” was a strategy that appealed to the vast majority of German Christians. That he would see in them such an instrument of righteous indignation was commending—both to them as the object of his insight, and to himself for his discernment of such.

It is my firm conviction that this is precisely what is happening in America today. The appeal to the Christian religion in the battle “against evil” within the West is NOT an historic first! Don’t be so quick to terminate this reading—let me explain. Who are those who most clearly understand the language of THE AXIS OF EVIL? Who are those who clearly grasp the “spiritual reality” behind Islamic terrorism? The current President is no fool in appealing to the most religious in leading his charge against the forces of evil that assail the current drama. The appeal to religious unity in the face of extremity is manifested in Islamic Jihad—Holy War. But, this appeal is far more sinister and powerful when placed in the hands of a “Christian President” about to inspire the faithful—far more potent is its impress. There is a righteous finality connected with it—a more sure word—an unseen and unmistaken cause behind this necessary action whose appeal is Ultimate and Conclusive. God, and God alone, is my judge—and you are “either for us or against us”—there is no compromise, there is no wavering between two opinions—LOVE IT OR LEAVE IT—OUR CAUSE IS JUST!

Doug is a member of the “Last Days Network” . . . a group of evangelical pundits providing news and analysis on Religion in Politics. “Applied Biblical prophecy,” apostasy and deception, the impact of the New American World System, and the influences of the Religious Right and Left upon American culture, are topics discuss by the group. He is an educator/administrator based in Northern California. The remainder of this article and many others can be fully viewed/graphics/links, etec. @ The Tribulation Network

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Flattery will get you everywhere! Always compliment women and they will always feel good about you, but don’t overdue it or they will think your just trying to score points (which you are, but you don’t want them to know that).

Try to sound sincere by giving her a unique compliment that most people will overlook. For instance, if she looks like she’s just had her hair done, say “I really like your hair, did you just have it done?”.

Also always remember that when it comes to a REALLY HOT woman, never tell her how beautiful she is. Every other guy that has tried and failed with her has said that, so learn from their mistakes and tell her how talented or smart she is. Chances are she has rarely (if ever) received such a compliment, and no matter how beautiful she is… she won’t be able to stop smiling once she hears it: Mission accomplished!

Always be on the look-out for things you can compliment on. I will never cease to stress how important it is to be aware of everything that women say and do, because if you hear and see everything you will never be at a loss for words, and in this case, at a loss for compliments.

Never walk up to a girl you have never met before and open up with a compliment, you should always time your compliment so that it catches her by surprise. You might be thinking “If I open up with a compliment won’t that catch her by surprise?”. Actually yes, but she will view it as a pick up line because you said it before anything else, and by now you should know that pick up lines are a no-no. Instead, try this method that I’ve found to be most effective:

Approach and introduce yourself, a simple “Hi, I’m Bob” would be sufficient. Upon receiving her name, ask a question based on what you observed before approaching (if you did not give yourself a few minutes to observe, you may find yourself at a loss for words). For instance, if you noticed her talking to someone for a while, you could say “Is she a friend of yours?” or “Why haven’t I seen you in here before, your friend comes here once in a while”. When she answers your question, hit her with the compliment, which should also be made based on what you’ve observed. However, you should try to say something funny in response to her answer to your question in order to break the ice before delivering your compliment, if nothing funny can be said (which often is the case) just forget about it and move on to the compliment.

Now you are a master of flattery, get out there and start making women feel good about themselves, which will make them start feeling good about you in return.

By the way, remember to smile when you give a compliment, you will find out that it’s highly contagious.

This article was written by the founder of Becomeaplayer.com known only as The Player. For more articles and free tips on picking up women check out the web site.

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Personalized wedding favors are a unique way to say thank you to your guests for sharing in your special day, but many couples choosing personalized wedding favors that spread their sense of gratitude to people outside their circle of friends. A wedding is a bright light in an often-dark world, and an increasing number of couples are choosing personalized wedding favors that spread that light just a little further.

Whether or not you have been directly affected by illness or some other affliction, personalized wedding favors that support charitable organizations are a unique way to share the joy of your day.

Charitable organizations are always looking for new ways to increase their fundraising endeavors, and many have discovered the value of offering personalized cheap wedding favors. For couples affected by illnesses such as cancer, choosing the personalized wedding favor of a cancer charity can be a really unique way to bring a personal touch to their wedding day.

What better way to celebrate the hope embodied in the act of marriage than to bestow your guests with a personalized wedding favor that will always remind them of the obstacles that you and your partner have overcome?

Many charities have taken a colored ribbon as a symbol of their hard work, and offer gorgeous personalized ribbon wedding favors. For those on a tight budget, these are usually personalized cheap wedding favors too, offering you a really significant favor that will be highly meaningful to your guests, without having to spend a fortune.

And by choosing these personalized cheap wedding favors, you can be sure that the money you do spend will be making a real difference. A charity’s personalized ribbon favors make something really special of your personalized wedding favors.

So if you are looking for a truly personalized wedding favor, then consider one that says thank you in a less traditional way. Share your hope and joy with those perhaps less fortunate than yourselves, and choose a charitable organization’s gift – a truly personalized wedding favor.

Personalized wedding favors make your wedding unique, and personal.

For a website totally devoted to Wedding Favors visit Peter’s Website The Wedding Favors Guide and find out about Unique Wedding Favors as well as Wedding Favor Ideas and more, including Cheap Wedding Favors and Wedding Shower Favors.

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It’s a well known fact that in this day and age most marriages end up in divorce. When confronted with the possibility of “throwing a relationship away”, you’ll probably experience a lot of stress. There are some things you can do to decide if you are in the wrong relationship and if you need to get out.

I have written a few tips and guidelines to help you decide if you are making the right choice when it comes to divorce. This list is just a few key points that I think will help you. The list is not meant to be a complete list of all the steps you need to take, but will give you “food for thought”.

1. Is your partner/spouse abusive? If your signifigant other has abused you in the past, they probably will do so again in the future. If you are in a situation where you continue to be abused you need to GET OUT IMMEDIATELY! Abuse usually get’s worse over time. Even though it may be difficult to leave, there are many resources and support systems for batered people.

2. Has your partner cheated on you? For some people this is unforgiveable. If your partner has cheated on you you need to decide if you will be able to forgive them or not. Be honest with yourself. If you know in your heart of hearts that you will never be able to forgive them - you need to end the relationship.

3. Does your partner make more money than you? Perhaps you would have a better life if you left. If your partner makes more money than you, chances are you’ll get a nice alimony (and child support if you have kids) - when you combine that with your own salary you could have a better life. There are some secrets to getting more money from your divorce and also saving on the costs. If you want to be ruthless and get everything you can from your divorce you will have to find the right Divorce Method.

4. Are you happy in the relationship? Sit back for a moment and think to yourself “Am I happy in my relationship?” If you are happy, then great! If you’re not happy then you need to ask another question. Ask yourself “Can I forsee myself ever being happy in this relationship?” If you can see yourself being happy if some small changes are made, then it might be worth your effort to get marital counselling. I want to mention here that the small changes must come from inside you. You do not have the power to change anyone else (including your spouse). If can’t see yourself EVER being happy you should probably get out of the relationship.

5. Is there anything wrong with Divorce? This is a moral decision you need to decide for YOURSELF. When people are confronted with the possiblity of divorce, they usually think about how other people will judge them morally if they get divorced. You need to decide for yourself. Forget about what your parents, priest, minister, rabbi, friends, co-workers, etc.. think about the moral decision for divorce. Take the time to think to yourself “Based on my experiences in my life, Would it be morally ‘wrong’ to get divorced?” This may be a hard decision for you to make, but you need to make it. You should not do something that you believe is morally wrong. You also shouldn’t be obligated to not do something that you want to do if you think it is morally acceptable.

I hope these 5 points have given you some resources that you can decide if you need to get divorced or not. The decision to divorce is never easy, but you do have options. You need to be able to look at your life as whole and decide if it is good or bad. You also need to look at every possible aspect of your relationship with your spouse and see if the good outweighs the bad, or if the bad outweighs the good. Sometimes your judgement is clouded when you only focus on the good or only on the bad. The bottom line is to do what you need to do to have a more fulfilling and happy life.

Good Luck in Life,

Kyle Chambers

About The Author

Kyle Chambers is a specialist at getting the most financially and mentally out of your divorce. Hundreds of people have already benefitted by little-known tricks in getting more money, custody rights, and just about everything else you want from your divorce. To get the most out of your divorce go to http://www.DivorceMethod.com

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Many are condemning the latest GM Terminator seeds. Yet there is not need to cause a raucous because the free market will decide which seeds farmers buy? When a Corporate farmer plows under the crop for next season sometimes he uses the old seeds for new life next season. In which case he might have a problem with the newest Genetically Modified Terminator Seeds. Well then if this will be the case he should use a different seed, which will spring up next season and grow, non-terminator seeds? It’s all about choice? Do not like Monsanto and their new GM Seeds? Then buy the seeds elsewhere. There are benefits to terminator seeds for instance a farmer who farms two or three seasons and is paid as part of his yield for purity, he does not want the old crop of something else mixed in with the new crop he is taking to market. When a small farmer of let’s say Mustard Seed holds some of his acres for harvest for the seeds of the next season, he can use those seeds again and maybe some left over for others too. Meaning he can sell those extra seeds and offset some costs for his over head.

Said farmer could buy another seed from a different company to grow his own and not patronize Monsanto. And if in fact other farmers were interested, he could be in the seed business himself thus if Monsanto went too hog wild on this idea, they in fact might alienate the agricultural community and corporate farmers and thus have problems. Some fear that Monsanto is trying to corner the market on seeds and force them into buying their seeds. Yet the farmer is under no obligation to buy seeds from anyone they do not wish too. The GM Crop seed issue and the new terminator seeds debate seems to be ongoing, but in the end it will not be lawyers or politicians who decide. In the end it will be the free market. Think about it.

Lance Winslow

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This person has a special ring tone –to warn you. If you’re lucky that day you’ll receive one email. You open the email to find a happy face…what does it want? This person seemed so normal when you first meet—who knew? Now this person is starting to make a pest of him/her…what to do?
The suggested solution depends on how you answer the next question:

Do you want to continue developing a relationship with this person? You will have to make a definitive answer –yes or no (hint if you’re saying maybe the answer is no)

I repeat advice my Life Coach clients and in other articles for people not to take the cowardly and cruel route that leaves the other in the chasm of the unknown. Don’t let someone else do your speaking and when you turn down someone in person do it in a public location (no matter how long you have known this person) or do it by the person personal email or home number(voicemail). If you’ve ever had a bad break up you will understand the advice. It’s unlikely anyone will ever thank you for saying no thank you to them but that isn’t a reason to leave this person in that chasm. Be gentle, direct and avoid giving away your class or courage to anyone or circumstance (specific bowing out tips check out the Dating 101 section of www.psstdating.com site next month)

Choose your ONE form of communication and show and tell this person the best way to stay in contact with you. Avoid the mixed signals: if this person calls you don’t email them back you got their message—call the person back. To stop the multiple communications you will have to stick to your chosen form—phone, email, text and don’t respond to all the communications. If he/she emails you 4times in a day don’t respond back to every email. The idea here is to get the person to STOP the multi communication.

If you don’t want this person contacting you any longer—say please stop contacting me. If you have been dating longer than 3 mths and/or have had sex with this person explain why you want to stop dating this person. You don’t have to be mean about this. Plan what you’re going to say calling/emailing the person. If you want to stop dating don’t wait until after the vacation and don’t have good bye sex. If your feeling lonely, bored or just curious one day don’t contact this person “just to see how they were doing” — you’re now playing with this person’s head and it’s unlikely you would enjoy someone doing this to you.
Dating is a relationship even when it’s casual. Relationships are communications.
Upcoming articles: Rejection and what is Game?
This article is written by Leah Woods, Life Coach and Author of Game Dating: Navigating through the Lame.

Leah Woods is a Life Coach and author of Game Dating and Game Chronicles zine is a single straight woman dating successfully in New York City. To order a copy of $30 eBook Game Dating please log on to http://www.psstdating.com

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When people are dating or looking for people to date, they often concentrate on finding a perfect match. They may make lists, either written or mental of the qualities and characteristics that they feel are most important. Dating has often been called a “game” because each person is trying to figure out what the other person wants out of the relationship. If you want to get past the dating games and into a relationship based on honesty and mutual respect, it is important that you spend time getting to know yourself and what your strengths, weaknesses, wants, and needs are so that you can be the type of person that someone else would like to date.

Physical appearance is what initially attracts one person to another-and although it should not be the foundation for a dating relationship, it is important. We don’t all look like Julia Roberts or Brad Pitt, but we can try to keep physically fit, and find clothing that suits our personality as well as our physique. You have heard for dressing for success in business—the same principle applies to dating success.

Is your personality attractive as well? What do friends and family say about your personality? When dating, the way that you conduct yourself and interact with others will be the thing that keeps a potential partner interested after the initial physical attraction tones down. If you have some negative personality traits, now is the time to work on getting rid of them. You will not be able to change the personality of a dating partner, but you can change yourself. Another important note: If you have heard that “opposites attract” this may be true, but it is not usually a good basis for a long term relationship. The more you are like a partner; the more likely the relationship will last.

The last suggestion is to concentrate on others. As you help and serve others, whether you are in a relationship with them or not you will not only learn more about yourself, but you will become a better and more grounded person. When you are happy with yourself you will be more likely to be happy, satisfied and attractive to others. You will also find that the people you meet as you help and serve will often share the same values and ideals that you do increasing your circle of possibilities.

Eriani Doyle writes articles about Self-Improvement. For more information about http://www,uodating.com/ dating

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