Love Society

By: Andrew Bicknell

What does it mean to be looking for love? What kind of love are you looking for and from whom. What I mean is that there are all kinds of love. The love you feel for your significant other, the unconditional love you get from your kids, the love you feel for a certain kind of food (chocolate?), or even the love that comes from having a pet.

Let’s face it, looking for love can mean all sorts of things to different people. But if your looking for the love of another person to share your life with, then what do you do?

You can go out with friends and hit the bars, but bars are notoriously bad places to meet the love of your life. Sure, you may meet someone and hit it off, but as most of us know picking up someone in a bar and living in a state of happy bliss the rest of your life with them is very realistic. Now if your looking for someone to just have some fun with maybe the bar route is a good idea.

One of my favorites is the blind date. These are usually set up for you by friends, co-workers, family members, etc. The problem here is what they may think is a good match is probably not what you are looking for. Nobody really knows what you are looking for other than you. Sure, they say you will like this person, or you two will get along just fine, but until you meet them you just don’t know, and that can be kind of scary.

Of course there is the old tried and true just meet someone doing something you like because at least then you share that in common. This isn’t necissarily true if you meet them at the grocery store because we all need to eat. If you’re both reaching for the same frozen pizza you could say you have that in common, but is that something to base a relationship off of.

If your looking for love and I mean really looking then you need to find someone that you can share your every want and need and thought and desire with. Someone compatable with who you are as a person. In the past this was largely a hit and miss proposition, but with the advent of online dating services it has become much easier to find that special someone.

If you think about it an online date starts out as a blind date but you actually get to know the person before you ever meet them. You are also matched up with people who fit the description of the type of person you would be most compatable with, which takes the stress out of meeting someone who shares more than one thing in common with you. You know, just because you meet someone at the gym doesn’t mean that they share your same interests other than being in shape.

The online dating world provides a simple way for those who are looking for love to find it. No more trying to meet someone on your own or through friends and co-workers. No more blind dates with someone your best friend thinks you’ll hit it off with. A dating service is about the closest you can get to finding the real love of your life without ever leaving the comfort of your own home. Or does being set up with Gus from your mom’s office sound like a better proposition.

Andrew Bicknell is a writer and owner of Romancing Hearts.com. Please visit his website for more advice about Online dating, Romance, and Matchmaking.

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By: Janet Reiss

Looking for love online has become a major business around the globe. Whether you search online dating sites or join social networks, you are one of the millions of people searching and millions of dollars being spent each year on this human task.

How you present yourself to the dating and social network communities is as important as who you are as an individual. There are some key factors that must be followed in order to be successful in your presentation and search:

Profile:

Be honest about what you present in your profile. The beginning of any relationship is fostered by honesty and openness. You don’t want any surprises and disappointments at the first meeting. Your profile must be accurate and to the point. You will have time to embellish things about yourself in later contacts. Think about what you would expect from someone else and then do it yourself.

Photo:

As with your profile you want to be honest and up front about yourself and what you really look like. A recent photo is your best bet. There are some great sites online to help you look your best, but a simple digital photo uploaded by you will do just as well. Before you choose your photo think about the millions of people who might be viewing it. Is this your best angle? Does the photo bring out your features? A head shot shows and tells more than a full body shot that is often lost in the distance. The photo often makes it or breaks it. People who search online are visual. If what you see is what you get, then your photo is probably the number one tool to use to catch someone’s attention.

Audio/Video:

Many sites today are using webcams to capture even more of the persona and personality of the subscriber. Again, as with a photo, what you see is what you get. Take time to create an audio/video cast in order to present a captivating you. Using A/V technology is an opportunity for you to shine. Even technophobes can find a way to upload a clear and defining A/V cast. There are many programs online to help you. Remember, people look for quality, intensity, honesty, and approachability.

These are the main points to remember in creating an online presentation of who you are and how you want others to see you. The most important thing to remember is to “be you”. Looking for love online can be fun and exciting. It is ever-changing as people and profiles come and go on the thousands of online dating sites and social networks. Above all remember that you are one in a million, not just one of millions. Be courteous, be kind, be honest, and be objective. Be patient. Most often, love will find you often before you find love.

Janet Reiss, LCSW is a licensed Clinical Social Worker in New York State. Janet’s primary job responsibility is the Clinical Manager at Flushing Hospital’s Mental Health Clinic. Her avocation is as an entrepreneur developing websites. Lookingforlove.com is owned an operated by Janet. http://www.Lookingforlove.com is an online dating and shopping directory and resource for singles offering niche dating sites, articles, blog, and more.

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