Pros and Cons of IM and Phone for Online Dating
By: Vittorio Norman
Pros of IM:
- helps build comfort, connection, attraction, and anticipation before chatting on the phone or meeting in person
- good for girls that are around a computer a lot and/or live with their parents/roommates
Cons of IM:
- requires very little investment from the girl, so she can still ignore you
- takes a bit more time and skill to use successfully
Pros of phone:
- more efficient
- easier
- good for women that are not around a computer a lot
Cons of phone:
- has the potential to infringe on a woman’s comfort level too soon, and can result in easier flaking
- doesn’t build as much connection and anticipation
As you can see, it largely depends on the individual. I know guys who happen to use messenger a lot and they love it. For me personally, I have met many, many women whom I chatted with over IM first. There is no hard or fast rule.
Of added benefit, chatting over IM allows you to build your conversational skills if they are lacking. These are not too different from the skills used when chatting on the phone or in-person. This is more food for thought as you are still deciding which one is best to use.
Copyright © 2006 Vittorio Norman
Vittorio Norman provides a step-by-step guide for meeting women online, in his latest ebook. His website is located at http://www.onlinedatestrategy.com