Relationship Advice - A is for Availability
By: Jeff Herring
Are you emotionally available in your love relationship?
Before you say of course, stop a moment and think about it.
Emotional availability means you are available to those you love and who love you even when you do not feel like it.
Emotionally available by choice
I once asked the wife of major college football coach how she was able to do all that she did with her big family when her husband was gone so much.
Her answer stopped me in my tracks - she said that no matter what, good day or bad day, long day or longer day, win or lose, when he came through the door at the end of the day, he was emotionally available to her and the children.
So naturally I had to ask him how he pulls this one off. Another answer that stopped me in my tracks - he said that he had a football street. He allowed himself to think football on the way home up until he got to a certain street. After that street, he allowed himself to think only family.
What is your “football street?”
At what point do you turn your attention and heart to your love relationship? Is it at some point everyday? A few times a year? Only after they are gone?
My suggestion is to come up with your own daily “football street” and use that boundary each day to turn your heart and attention to your love relationship(s).
I case you are wondering, my football friend wins a lot.
On and off the field.
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