Relationship Advice: On the Challenges and Joys of Sharing a Bed
By: Jeff Herring
Sharing a bed with someone can be great and challenging at the same time.
For instance, I did not know until I got married several years ago that I begin to wake up about 4 am each morning, tossing, turning, and breathing hard. I woke up one Saturday morning to my wife’s elbow in my ribs and her telling me to “stop breathing.”
Perhaps that has something to do with why we are no longer married.
Couples sharing a bed
Anyway, there are now people who are actually researching the challenges and benefits of couples sharing a bed.
Dr. Paul C. Rosenblatt, a professor of sociology at the University of Minnesota, Twin Cities, has begun to study couples who share a bed and has been so fascinated by the results that he wrote “Two in a Bed: The Social System of Couple Bed Sharing” published this summer by State University of New York Press.
According to Dr. Rosenblatt, “It’s not a self-help book,” but an a look at of some of the challenging,
common and often humorous issues couples face when sharing a bed, including spooning, sheet-stealing, snoring, eating in bed and watching TV.
Also according to Dr. Rosenblatt, when couples were asked about why they chose to share a bed together, “they looked at me as if I’d asked them why they keep breathing.”
Many of the couples I coach speak of the challenges, different sleep patters, etc. But they grin when they talk about spooning, the intimacy of talking, and making love
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