Relationship Advice: Thinking Alike or Thinking Together
By: Jeff Herring
“The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.” - Robert C. Dodds
Do you know how some people believe that you in order to get along you have to think just like the other person? Well the good news is you do not have to think alike, you just need to learn to think together.
Where in the world did we get the idea that in order to have a successful relationship two people have to think exactly alike. Think about it, two people with different life experiences from two different families are going to agree on everything…?
I don’t think so. This expectation causes many problems for couples though.
If both people think exactly alike on all things, then one of them is expendable.
While it is nice and necessary to agree on some thing, the good news is that we do not always have to think alike.
We do, however, need to learn to think together in order to have a sustainable long term relationship.
An important part of this is taking the strengths of one person and the strengths of another person, and blending them together in a way that makes the two of them stronger together than either could be alone.
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