Relationship Rescue for Gents
By: Chris Norton
Here are seven tips from guys that know how to keep their ladies happy – and a happy lady makes for a happier guy.
1. Make her feel special.
No, you don’t have to hold the door, walk on the outside or stand up when she returns to the table after visiting the loo, but it does help to keep in mind that she’s not just one of the guys. She’s something special in your life and you need to let her know that. Let her catch you looking at her from across the room. Whisper to her how sexy she looks tonight in the middle of a crowd. Let her know you think she’s beautiful.
2. Touch her. A lot.
Touch is one of our most important senses. We’ve known for many years that babies who aren’t touched enough suffer psychologically. Your relationship needs touch to keep it alive too. Give her hand a squeeze when you’re walking down the street. Brush her arm with yours when you’re standing in line at the theatre. Rest your fingers on her leg under the table – and DON’T try to edge it up under her skirt. Just touch.
3. Listen to her when she talks.
That’s all – just listen. You’ll be surprised how much you learn when you focus on what your partner is telling you. The single biggest complaint that women have about men is that they don’t LISTEN. Listening will keep you from making mistakes like giving her a stunning sweater – in a color that she hates. Those silly things are clues to her that you don’t pay enough attention to her needs and wants.
4. Keep in touch.
Let her know you’re thinking about her during your day. Take two minutes to text her a ‘thinking of u’ message. Drop her an email or send a silly card. Ring her up on your lunch break just to say ‘I wanted to hear your voice’. It all goes back to the #1 rule of relationship rescue – make sure she knows how special you think she is.
5. Tell her how you feel.
Good, bad, indifferent – let her know what you’re feeling, and not just about your relationship. When you say, “I’m frustrated that my boss won’t listen to my suggestions”, you’re letting her into your life and letting her know that you trust her. You DO trust her, don’t you? The bonus here? She won’t assume your bad mood is her fault – and she just might have a suggestion for dealing with your boss.
6. Surprise her.
If your relationship has become predictable and boring, break out of the humdrum. Ask her out on a date. Show up at her office with a picnic lunch. Come home early and start dinner.
7. Take good care of yourself.
She deserves the best that there is – and that includes you. Back to #1 again – if you can’t even be bothered to put on a clean shirt for her, how special can she be?
Notice a trend there? The single most important thing you can do to bring your relationship round is to make it clear how important it is to you. Let her know that you think she’s the most special and important person in the world. Nothing makes women feel loved like being loved.
Chris Norton writes for Armchair Advice. Armchair Advice is a UK website providing specialist job loss and relationship advice. Whether you require emotional support, financial advice, employment law or divorce lawyers, you can find them all at Armchair Advice.
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