Relationship Trouble: Making Assumptions
By: Jeff Herring
Most of us have heard the saying “assuming makes an ass (out of) u (and) me.
But did you know that assumptions are considered the lowest form of knowledge?
And yet we ass-u-me we know exactly what our partner wants and needs. We then act accordingly, and are stunned and hurt when we find out we were wrong.
The cure for making assumptions
Did you know that there is a cure for making assumptions? Well, I usually try to make things as simple and useable as possible, without all the psycho-babble junk.
As Albert Einstein said:
“Everything should be made as simple as possible but no simpler.”
But this time I’m going to have to get a little complicated and show off that high priced degree for which I worked so hard. Hold on to your seats, and get pen and paper in hand, because here comes a very complex and sophisticated psychological principle:
The cure for assuming is to (drum roll, please…..) ASK!
That’s right ask.
It really can be that simple.
And away with the silly notion that if you have to ask then it doesn’t mean as much. As speaker and author Mark Victor Hansen (“Chicken Soup for the Soul”) is fond of saying,
“you have to A-S-K to G-E-T.”
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