Step 5 To An Ideal Relationship: Being Personally Honest
By: Nick Arrizza, M.D.
In “Ten Steps To An Ideal Relationship” I note that Step 5 is about maintaining personal honesty as one of your highest priorities.
If you are honest with yourself and with others you will always maintain your personal integrity, self esteem, and self worth and in spite of what ever happens you will feel more resilient. This will also attract individuals who also uphold this as an important value.
So what do I mean when I say “personal honesty”?
Well pure and simple it means being aware of your own inner truth and living it always in spite of whatever tries to pull you away from it.
Now this is more difficult than some might think for a number of reasons.
Your “inner truth” represents “what is right for you”. Living your inner truth means “doing what is right for you”.
You see the first thoughts that likely came up for you were:
1. Well that sounds selfish, or,
2. That’s impossible, or,
3. That’s scary, or,
4. That’s going to get me into a great deal of trouble, or,
5. That’s going to make me appear like a cold hearted human being, and so on.
Well that’s not even the beginning of the problem.
You see most people have become so conditioned to suppress what is right for them that they don’t even know where it lives inside of them.
Hence if I asked someone whether “doing what’s right for them” is the “right thing for them” they wouldn’t even know how to answer that question. I’m sure you probably had this difficulty in step one above.
So let me put it the other way: When is doing something that “isn’t right for you right for you”?
Sounds like a bit of a paradox doesn’t it? Well it does because it is.
You see “doing something that is not right for you is NEVER right for you”!
Yet individuals in relationships are repeatedly surrendering their rights to the internal beliefs that they have been conditioned with i.e. the list I began to make above.
Why does this happen Well because when you were a child you were “imprinted” with all of these negative beliefs and they are still inside of you running your life.
So what impact do you think that is going to have on your relationship success?
If you get the picture and would like some support so you can free yourself to do what is right and therefore maintain a personal level of honesty, integrity and self esteem visit the web link below.
Dr. Nick Arrizza is trained in Chemical Engineering, Business Management & Leadership, Medicine and Psychiatry. He is an Energy Psychiatrist, Healer, Key Note Speaker,Editor of a New Ezine Called “Spirituality And Science” (which is requesting high quality article submissions) Author of “Esteem for the Self: A Manual for Personal Transformation” (available in ebook format on his web site), Stress Management Coach, Peak Performance Coach & Energy Medicine Researcher, Specializes in Life and Executive Performance Coaching, is the Developer of a powerful new tool called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) that helps build physical, emotional, mental and spiritual well being by helping to permanently release negative beliefs, emotions, perceptions and memories. He holds live workshops, international telephone coaching sessions and international teleconference workshops on Physical. Emotional, Mental and Spiritual Well Being.
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