Talking Dirty
By: Julia Tanner
One of the best ways to create an erotic scene is with a little naughty talk into your partner or new partner’s ear. And as you know from getting ready to come this evening, presentation is everything.
Finding Your Sexy Voice
Everyone knows what a sexy voice is, but do you know how to find yours?
Talking deeply isn’t enough, nor do you need to smoke a pack of cigarettes a day either. This part is all about your attitude and your ability to relax in the moment.
Start with your breathing. Think about how you are breathing at the moment. Is it quick or is it slow? Your voice should move with this rhythm. With quick breaths, you want to break up your sentences, and with longer breaths, you can give more details.
Talk like you were trying to whisper, but ran out of breath. Your voice may drop a notch by doing this.
Or you can just relax and talk a little more quietly to get the same effect.
What Am I Going To Say?
If you’ve never talked dirty, then this is going to be an eye-opening experience. And you’re going to feel a bit strange at first, but that’s normal.
Think about the things that you love about the other person. Is it a particular body part? That’s great, you can use that.
You can start with something like, “I love your (whatever body part you choose)” at first. This gets you warmed up and everyone likes a compliment. This will also show the other person that you’re going to talk a bit.
You aren’t answering a question, so try no to use the word ‘because.’ You don’t have to give a reason, you just love something.
But you can say what that particular body part is doing to your body. Slow it down and lengthen the talk out. Start with “I love your (whatever body part).” Take a pause and then finish with, “It makes my (choose your favourite sexual organ) hot/wet/choose your reaction.”
Tell them how they make you feel in explicit detail and watch their reaction.
You’re well on your way to being a pro at dirty talk.
As a side note, some folks like to use words that may be derogatory, but I would make sure that the other person doesn’t mind before you try them.
Some will be very offended and that isn’t a good way to start a lovely evening.
Getting Comfortable
Why many people don’t use dirty talk is because they think they sound silly and that’s just not the case.
As with anything new, you just need to jump in and try it. Everyone has a first time for everything, and since you’re in a safe environment, no one is going to laugh at you.
Saying anything that is related to sex in the heat of an already arousing moment will sound magical. You just need to spit it out a few times to get comfortable with saying it.
After a while, dirty talk will come naturally and your partner of the moment will love it.
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