Ten Secrets For Being A Good Husband
By: Sandra Harmon
1. CHOOSE TO BE RESPECTED OR CHERISHED
There can only be one, respected, masculine energy partner who is the leader, and one, cherished, feminine energy partner, who is the follower, with veto rights. Remember, when a man’s thinking is respected, he feels cherished. When a woman’s feelings are cherished, she feels respected.
2. PAY ATTENTION TO HER FEELINGS
You should want to know what her feelings are. Don’t sweep them under your logical brain. She doesn’t have to be logical, rational or happy all the time. Cherish her feelings, no matter what they are.
3. DON’T FORGET THE COURTSHIP
Women need to be courted and feel desirable until they die. Stroke her each day. Spend time each day on each of her senses. On Sunday, taste her; on Monday, smell her; on Tuesday, hear her; on Wednesday, see her; on Thursday, touch her, then repeat what she likes the best..
While men are horny for sex intercourse, women are horny for sensuous affection. When masculine energy men give their feminine energy women what they need, they will find that their sensuous women give back great sex.
4. LEARN HOW TO COMMUNICATE YOUR WANTS.
A “narcissistic” man believes that if a woman loves him, she can guess what he wants. He believes that if he has to ask for what he wants, it’s not worth the effort. Masculine men must have the courage to speak up. Don’t act passive aggressive, and hope she can read your mind.
5. MAKE LOVE TO HER SEXUALLY, AT LEAST ONCE A WEEK
Women physically bond to men who are sexual with them. Even if you are unable to get an erection or penetrate her for some physical or psychological reason, make love to her as best you can. Get help if you are dysfunctional.
6. SET ASIDE FIFTEEN MINUTES A DAY TO TALK.
Every day, each of you should ask your partner what he or she thinks and feels about things that matter to each of you. Find out how to help the other to feel better and to achieve his or her goals and then do it
7. RENEGOTIATE TERMS AT LEAST ONCE A YEAR OR WHENEVER THERE IS A CHANGE IN YOUR LIFESTYLE.
Negotiate time: I, We, Us; space and money; mine, yours, ours; and play; non-sexual and sexual.
8. KEEP ALL AGREEMENTS
The only way you know you love yourself and others, is by the agreements you are willing to make and keep. Respect and cherish each other daily.
9. CREATE A ROMANTIC MEMORY BANK
As you age, your great memories will make your marriage feel good. You and your wife may not always have intercourse but you can have sex talk, recounting the great times you once had, which will make your marriage feel good, even when you don’t.
10. BE FAITHFUL AND LOYAL TO YOUR MATE
The grass may be greener across the road but it often turns out to be astroturf. Work diligently to be the man who deserves respect. Personal integrity creates a virtuous, satisfying life and discipline allows spontaneity and peace of mind.
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SANDRA HARMON
Sandra Harmon has become one of the countries most popular Love, Dating, Sex and Relationship Coach, since the phenomenal success of her two, best selling, self help books, the powerful and ground breaking “Getting To I Do”, and the sequel, “Staying Married and Loving It”.
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