The 12 Steps to Creating Divorce-Proof Marriages
By: Ken Donaldson
Know yourself, Engage yourself and Marry yourself
Define your Life Purpose
Discern and live by your Values and Priorities
Create your Life Vision and Life Mission Statement
Develop a Legacy that will live forever
Create a Balanced Lifestyle
Set Boundaries and eliminate energy drains
Create a proactive Self Maintenance program
Evaluate and Inventory your lifestyle weekly
Surround yourself with Supportive Networks and Communities
Seek out like-minded and like-valued people
Create Accountability agreements with others
Avoid negative situations and environments
Know your Requirements and Needs
Create and live by your “Deal Makers” and “Deal
Breakers”
Make direct requests to get your needs met
Always be true to yourself
Take your work in life seriously, but take life lightly
Practice being flexible, fluid, and accepting
Avoid trying to “push the river”
Express your passion in life with the utmost of passion
Understand the healthy romantic relationship developmental process
Create the criteria for your Life Partner
Develop “Screening” and “Testing” strategies
Use your support system for feedback and input
Define your personal Spirituality
Discover and walk your Spiritual Path
Practice daily acts to activate your “Highest Self”
Accept life on life’s terms
Be perfectly imperfect
Know your character challenges and work to strengthen those areas
Accept all your errors, mis-takes and failures
Practice non-judgment of yourself and all others
Live from Abundance
Practice daily acts of ‘Random Kindness”
Develop a “Pay it Forward” system in your life
Create an affirming, fear-less inner dialogue
Be an Excellent Communicator
Practice Active Listening as often as possible
Commit to creating a “Win-Win” outcome with others
Learn to process emotions, conflict and disagreements
Get out of your comfort zone
Learn to accept all your uncomfortable feelings and emotions
Practice deliberate daily acts of new behavior
Celebrate discomfort as healthy growth and development
Consciously Breathe and Smile
Learn to be Silly
Develop Breathing Exercises to enhance your Mind, Body, Heart and Soul
“Fake it til you make it”: Smile until you are happy
Ken Donaldson has been based in Tampa Bay offering counseling, coaching, and educational programs since 1987. His REALationship Coaching programs empower people to have more successful lives, businesses and relationships by building a powerful relationship with themselves first. Visit his website at http://www.REALationshipCoach.com for more information and sign-up his free e-program Illuminations and Sparks of Brilliance. Ken is also the author of the upcoming book Marry YourSelf First!