The Art of Pleasing a Woman (in a non-sexual way)
By: Jeffrey Hauser
I’m in my late fifties and have learned a lot about women. While I’m no expert, I think I can write with some authority. I was married for nearly 30 years to one woman before she passed away. Today, I’m happily married to another and I hope she’s as thrilled with me as I am with her. And why shouldn’t she be? I treat her very well. And my late wife’s friends would attest to the same thing. I took good care of her too.
It’s a relatively easy task to accomplish and it begins with an attitude. Think of
why you are with that special lady. Isn’t it to please her and have her return the
favor? You don’t even have to strain yourself or plan elaborate events. Just do the
little things that she will come to appreciate. Tell her you love her, and do it often.
Hold her hand while you walk together and sit next to her when you eat out. Sitting
across works when you’re having lunch with the boss, but we’re trying to establish a
bit of intimacy here.
Give her a back massage. Make her dinner at home. Do the dishes. Clean the
house or apartment, for no special reason.
Buy her flowers and candles. Let her pick out different scents she enjoys. Let her
decorate the house or apartment. Pick out everything together. Go shopping
together, whether it’s at the mall or the grocery store. Do the yard work together.
Watch tv together.
Listen to her when she talks to you. Discuss your day, your work, your hopes
and dreams. Talk to her. If something is bothering you, tell her. Ask her if
everything is okay or if there’s anything she needs or wants, that you can provide.
Remember her birthday, anniversary, Mother’s day, Valentine’s Day, and any
other significant anniversary with at least a card.
If you’re at work, call her just to tell her you miss her. Be attentive and caring. Be
inventive in ways to make her feel wanted and special. Hug her often.
Notice I haven’t mentioned anything about sex. Sex is another way of loving and
deserves a separate article. Suffice it to say, if you do all the things I have just listed,
she’ll be more than willing to take care of any of your sexual needs.
Pleasing a woman is the opposite of being a jerk and it’s not particularly difficult
or painful. Just be kind, gentle, caring, and provide the security she craves. Leave
your big, macho attitude at the door. Being a man isn’t so much physical as it is
mental. If you don’t believe me, ask any woman. She’ll be more than happy to tell
you, if you allow her to do so while shopping for a new handbag or pair of shoes as
a thank you.
Jeffrey Hauser was a sales consultant for the Bell System Yellow Pages for
nearly 25 years. He graduated from Pratt Institute with a BFA in Advertising
and has a Master’s Degree from Monmouth University. He had his own
advertising agency in Scottsdale, Arizona and ran a consulting and design
firm, ABC Advertising. He has authored 6 books and a novel, “Pursuit of the
Phoenix,” available at amazon.com. His latest book is, “Inside the Yellow
Pages.” Currently, he is the Marketing Director for www.thenurseschoice.com,
a Health Information and Doctor Referral site.