The Considerations Of Being An Older Woman Dating Younger Men
By: Cheryl Ashbrook
Whilst there are many advantages to being an older woman dating a younger man, as demonstrated by famous couples such as Francesca Annis and Ralph Fiennes or Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher, there are also some drawbacks which do need to be considered, addressed and overcome.
As an older woman dating a younger man you may feel that society does not accept you and people whisper words like ‘desperate’ or ’sad’. Neither will be true. In fact most people will not notice the age gap at all and assume you are of similar ages and if they do comment it probably means they are just jealous; either way it’s none of their business.
Sadly, friends and family on both sides may also react in unexpected ways and have strong opinions about the relationship, sometimes quite negative ones. They may be concerned it ‘will not last’ or ‘he just wants your money’ etc. Be careful not to let others preconceptions put you off what could be a very rewarding relationship.
You will probably find that, at some stages in the relationship at least, you are at different stages in your life. As an older woman you may feel you have already been there and done that when your younger partner wants to try something. In this situation it’s important to revert back to that initial excitement and try and see a situation with new eyes rather than adopt a cynical air that could make it difficult for your younger partner to suggest things. Remember being more mature does sometimes require you to think that way and act appropriately!
A younger partner may want children, and whilst this may not be impossible, it may need careful consideration, especially if you already have children. It is certainly something that should be discussed if it is raised when the relationship reaches a suitably serious stage.
As an older woman you may be quite settled and established both financially and career wise but you may have to accept that your younger partner is not. They may still be climbing the career ladder or establishing their financial independence and you will have to consider if and how you integrate your financial positions and careers where and when relevant.
You may also be thinking in the long term when you are old and maybe not so attractive and your partner is still young. Remember though, having a younger partner will keep you younger, women tend to live longer than men and can age better so maybe this is the new way of the world to even things out and keep couples together in old age!
An older woman dating younger men can have a fantastic lifestyle, be made to feel younger, even more confident and have more fun than with a much older partner so don’t let your doubts stop you.
At the end of the day any relationship must be considered on its relative merits and if you meet someone, have a good time together and choose to spend time together then age, or other peoples opinions should not matter. Your and his happiness are the most important things to consider so make your decisions based on that.
Cheryl Ashbrook is an author for the online dating tips website http://www.MaxMyProfile.co.uk which provides dating advice and services for men and women. If you liked this article then why not read more of our dating articles or register with us and receive our free dating eBook with our compliments.