Love Society

By: Andrew Bicknell

Ask a woman what the perfect date is and the answer will probably run along the lines of a nice evening out with a leisurely dinner and good conversation. Maybe followed by a nice moonlit walk hand in hand with her handsome man. Stopping for a drink or desert and more conversation/flirting. In other words a slow romantic build up that may or may not lead to something more intimate.

Ask a guy that same question and the answer is pretty obvious, particularly when he’s talking to his friends. Did he get to do the horizontal tango.

Which just goes to show that a man and a woman at the same place and time sharing the same experience are thinking two different things.

So then the question becomes does the perfect date exist exist? Probably only in our minds as we map out how we would like it to go, but reality has a way of screwing with even the best laid plans.

But that doesn’t mean we can’t try to have the perfect date. And it doesn’t have to be a one time thing because lets face it, the whole purpose of a first date (unless things go horribly wrong) is to have a second date and many after that. And while not every date will be perfect or as good as the one before it, with a little planning and advice there’s no reason we can’t shoot for that high a standard every time.

There are a whole lot of guides to dating and dating ideas out there. And that’s a good thing, particularly for men. Because you men know how hard it is to come up with original ideas, and that in and of itself is what makes a perfect date. ORIGINAL IDEAS! You have to change it up, you can’t be doing the same thing, going to the same place every time. That’s not a date, that’s repetition. And nothing sets off the boring meter better than repetition.

One other thing to remember is you don’t have to use any dating ideas word for word. In other words, don’t try to copy exactly what the date guru has put forth. Take that idea and give it your own personal twist. What that is is up to you, but your date wants you to be you. So get your date ideas, even if they aren’t yours originally adding your own personality to the idea will make it yours and that makes it as close to perfect as you can get.

Andrew Bicknell is a writer and the owner of http://www.romancinghearts.com.

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By: Ron Zvagelsky

Sometimes the person you think is the one turns out to be the wicked witch of the west, but that doesn’t naturally mean it’s your fault. Chemistry is the most important factor when dating, so if things start out well at first and then take a turn for the worst towards the end, someone threw in something they weren’t supposed to.

People have different opinions of what they consider to be the perfect date. Perhaps you are one for going to a nice movie, then taking your girlfriend out to dinner, or you like to hang out at home and just “chill”. Some people think the perfect date ends with a good night kiss or something a little more intimate. But don’t be discouraged when you date doesn’t go they way you planned. I have been on dates before that have been so fun that the next time I have taken her out, it flopped big time. There really is nothing you can do about that and I don’t expect anyone to get overly upset over it, but as I said before chemistry is the important factor.

People that have been in a relationship for a long time usually have their mate figured out pretty well, but is it that easy finding out what they are really feeling? Do you ever wonder what your girlfriend/boyfriend is thinking about? These are all factors that make for a great date, and sometimes you need to get a little lucky. Reading the situation is always important and bringing up entertaining stories is always a plus.

If you’ve ever encountered a bad date, which I’m sure most people in this world have, you just have to move on. The thing with coping with a bad date is you need to go out with your friends and just forget about it, because believe me, the other person is doing exactly same thing. As the saying goes, there are plenty of fish in the see, and naturally, there will be someone out there for you.

Ron Zvagelsky has a degree in Business Administration from the University of Southern California. He graduated Magna Cum Laude in May 2006. He is currently the Chief Executive Officer of PlanJam – where you can find fun date ideas and romantic date ideas.

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