Third Wives Club: Banner Relationships & Making Them Work
By: Jan Verhoeff
Nobody dreams of being the Third Wife. When you marry for the first time, you’re full of hopes and dreams for long-term marriage relationship, the whole shebang, including a 50th wedding anniversary and all that includes. If that relationship blows up in smoke and disaster, the average person may actually still have enough persistence to try again… And still have some hope left.
When the second relationship turns to ashes, the phoenix may not reappear as a standard of hope, but an avoidance of doom. The fear of growing old alone may pound in your chest, it may keep you awake at night, and you may suffer great anxiety because of your own fears. And yet, the prospect of saying “This is my third husband” terrorizes your mind.
You look back at two failed marriages and think of the karma… The weight of the world is on your shoulders. Gloom and doom shall follow you. You’re a looser! You can’t even make a man happy. And you loose sight of the reality…
The chances are good that your first marriage ended before it began. You and your spouse married young, without the necessary understanding of what marriage was all about. Your relationship started out a miracle and sunk into despair. Without proper tools to keep it alive, it died. Quickly on it’s heals someone promised you all the right things, said all the things you needed to hear, and you fell for the “line”. A second marriage solved all your current problems and you struggled to grasp and hold onto ‘the dream’.
I’m not resolving you of any responsibility. That would be your choice and view.
Justification for your position appears on the horizon and you can see some semblance of hope reappearing in your life. You have another chance. A man in your life who just might be ‘the one’ and you risk it. You take that step, one more time, risking your heart to yet another who might trample it into the dirt.
And you wonder - how to make it work.
As a single woman attempting to make it work a third time, trying to revive the hope of ‘maybe’, I searched for answers and found a simple page of ideas. It’s even on a free site, a place where one might go just to express thoughts and hopes. http://www.freewebs.com/luckslec offered a bit of hope, a few suggestions, and a place to seek answers. Links to other helpful sites are there in the lineup, along with practical suggestions.
Then I wondered… Is there hope?
Jan Verhoeff is a writer. Her short stories and articles often touch the hearts of readers seeking answers and solutions. Life solutions come in short supply, but hope is everlasting. If you’re seeking hope, solutions for your life, or a business answer, visit http://janverhoeff.com Jan presents marketing solutions for business of all kinds – including affairs of the heart.