Tips for Men: The Need to Talk
By: Brandi Simon
Gentlemen, I’m going to let you in on a little secret about the women in your lives! Women not only love to talk but they actually NEED to talk. For many women this need is just as great as your own need for sex.
A little suggestion that may help; don’t try to understand why she needs to talk. Just as she can never truly understand how great your own need for physical intimacy, you will probably never really “get” why she needs to talk.
The great thing is that you don’t need to understand why in order to meet her need. You just need to accept that talking is very important to her and make a commitment to meet her need for “talk”.
Here are a couple of pointers:
She needs your undivided attention. Don’t sit there and watch a show or play on the computer while she is trying to have a conversation with you. This does not cut the mustard when it comes to communication. She needs to know that you are an active participant in the conversation. She does not need to compete for your attention (this will only make her feel as if your other activity is more important than she is). Don’t offer advice Take your Mr. Fix It hat off! When your wife is telling you about the problems that she is facing in her life she doesn’t want your advice (unless of course she specifically asks for it). What she wants is to be heard! Be empathetic with her and just listen. I could give even more pointers on this subject however; I think that is enough to get you started on your journey of improving your relationship with the woman in your life. Attempt to implement these changes in your relationship for one month; you will not be disappointed with the difference it makes. You may even be pleasantly surprised because you may be rewarded for your efforts. To a woman “talk” is a powerful emotional connector that will bond you more closely to her. Since the emotional bond is strengthened she just may be feeling more amorous.
Brandi Simon is the owner of Marital Matters where she offers articles and information for those suffering the effects of an extramarital affair and other relationship issues. Brandi is an affair survivor who has successfully rebuilt her marriage from the ashes and offers advice to those who are recovering. To learn more about the website or Brandi, please visit Marital Matters.